Have you been looking for love in all the wrong places and in too many faces; only to find more pain and despair?
Then it is time to find out the truth regarding your search for true love.
You don't need to engage in an endless search for Mr. or Mrs. Right, nor do you settle or compromise for any Mr. or Mrs. Right now. If you continue to search for Mr. or Mrs. Right you will inevitably lose yourself trying to please others who can never really be pleased.
When you engage in trying to satisfy the unappeasable you are doing nothing more than giving them the power to control your life. Of course the powerful one is the subtle redeemer of all your good deeds, and can effortlessly play the game all day long everyday. It's much more important to empower yourself by knowing where your love really exists, than it is to be drained of your energy or continue to feel betrayed and end up abandoned by continually giving to someone who is not giving back to you.
Instead of surviving in the lack of love where you find yourself alone, you turn your precious love and attention towards the person who most deserves it, you! So that you can become very consciously aware of any inner healing that is necessary to occur within you that has caused you to invest so much of yourself without any returns.
True Love is the remembrance and moment-to-moment application and expression of self-love. This honors the value of you, your divine magnificence.
You will want to attend to you to be sure you eliminate anything inside of you that is causing you to attract those outer relationships that are less than honorable, respectful and loving. Your healing can occur quickly; as when you are engaged in paying attention to the true love of self, your heart opens and is willing to receive.
The difficulty for most in accepting and acknowledging their own true love is due to the painful experiences from past lives and the past in this life. These experiences are encoded on a cellular level within you. You fear being fully open with your freedom of expression of self on all levels, not just due to the old painful experiences, but at the real causal level originating from when you first chose to lower your vibration to digress into matter, human form when you subscribed to incorrectly believing you are unworthy of true love.
When you incarnate, you came in with a veil of forgetfulness. You are not conscious of this veil, and thusly, you sense a separation from your source, God/Goddess.
In human form you have an ego, or the lower mental mind. This lower mental mind does not have the capacity of understanding like the universal higher mind does. The lower mind attempts to calculate and figure everything out rather than simply connecting to the inner feelings of love.
The lower mind attempting to figure out the sensation of separation, reasons that you must have done something wrong, and your abandonment is a direct punishment for your incorrectly perceived crime. The ego doesn't remember that your soul made the choice to simply experience incarnation for the very purpose of realizing the love it truly is.
Thusly, it calculates if you have done wrong you must be penalized for your wrong doing in some manner. You engage in one life experience after another punishing self in one form or another for doing nothing more than choosing life on earth.
These self-abusing experiences accumulate and compound as you continue to cycle through this incorrect belief of wrong doing punishable by whatever. What you are really unconsciously doing is creating one opportunity after another to be able to see the higher truth of being your own true love. Unfortunately, you as well as many have been stuck in this unhealthy behavior for eons
The self-punishment does have a silver lining, as a result of your multiple painful experiences, you can realize the greater truth that states you have done no wrong, the truth that states you can do no wrong because you are and have always been love. Love that is creating many experiences to realize it is love personified.
The time is now, as this is the Golden age of Heaven on Earth, where all will come to realize the truth of the true love of self.
You need not wait for anyone else to shift your incorrect beliefs into divine knowingness, nor do you need to fear them any longer. For those whom are still not ready to fully awaken to the truth will not be able to get any where near you once you choose love. When you are connected to your true love, you will not encounter these souls, as you have in the past; who are choosing to live in a lower vibration and are stuck in treating others badly because they don't value themselves to begin with.
You need not fear being vulnerable and walking with an open heart, as those who have not yet learned to love themselves simply will not cross your path. The energy of love is a far greater frequency and nothing vibrating from fear will be able to get any where near you. Love cannot encounter fear and those players who are stuck in fear will be on different grounds where they will continue to have the necessary less than loving experiences, so they can come to the same realization of remembering they were never lacking love and need not steal it from another.
When you incorrectly believe you are lacking love, you seek outside of yourself, another person, place or thing that will fulfill and satisfy this sense of lacking. You continue to pursue others one after the other in search of the love you are not willing to give yourself. Sometimes you may play the role of the victim by giving and never receiving equally in return, or you might take on the opposing role of the abuser, where you constantly take without ever being satisfied.
When you play the victim you give anyone and/or everyone the credits for your feel goods and you also project the blame for your feel bads. When you are the abuser you simply blame everyone for everything therefore righteously licensing your terrible treatment of others.
The ego is insatiable because it thrives on the sense of lack; lack is what fuels its fires and thusly you give the power to the ego of self, in your endless search of another to fulfill the very love of which you already are.
Until you are willing, as you have always been able, to stay and master the ego and its control over you and your life by realizing you are responsible for all the choices you have made; you will never come to know and live in the bliss of true love.
Your true love is you!
It does not exist outside of you. The one that exists outside of you is known more commonly as, the conscious life partner or twin flame. Although you will never enjoy the benefits of this whole relationship either until you realize your wholeness lies within.
How could you expect a whole individual to desire to live with and stand by the side of one who believes they are half a person, or lesser than. It simply cannot occur because the vibratory rates are completely different.
The whole individual is vibrating with a frequency of abundance of love of self and therefore lacks nothing. This individual needs no one, even though they may choose to share their life with another. The half individual perceives they are in lack and therefore is always needy. The half person lives in fear and the whole person lives in love, as stated above love and fear simply cannot encounter one another.
You have already experienced the kind of relationship when two fearful low vibrating individuals get together. These two are like separate halfs attempting to make a whole. They may be very attracted at first, because they are both looking for the same thing, someone to make them whole. Eventually they will unconsciously battle over control of the whole. Often with each half switching roles flipping back and forth from the powerful controlling one to the submissive one.
When you incorrectly believe that you lack something and then engage in attempts to fulfill yourself outside of yourself, you will experience being surrounded by many who seem to not want to give you the time of day. They dismiss your opinion as if it is worthless and they don't return the love you wish to give or have given to them.
Anyone one who believes they are not fulfilled without the other half is holding a lower vibration and cannot realize true love until they heal their incorrect beliefs about being less than love, less than loving, less than lovable and less than loved.
Opposing energies cannot meet and stay together for an extended period of time unless one or both change to vibrate at the same rate of frequency. The higher vibrational person will never encounter the lower vibrational individual unless they are participating in their lives for the purpose of healing. In as such the relationship is only temporary unless the lower vibratory person raises its frequency to love and/or the higher vibratory person lowers it frequency to fear.
You will not realize and walk side by side with that life partner or twin flame and/or peers until you are whole yourself. All those that come across your path are always a reflection of self. They are messengers to radiate back to you who you are in any given moment. You will always be surrounded by those that represent who you presently are, who you were in the recent past and who you are becoming in the near future, as you awaken to the true love of self.
Understanding the mirror those around you are reflecting back to you for your greater good and immediate benefit allows you to disengage yourself from another aspect of the lower mental mind known as judgment. If you are disturbed by someone, look upon them and see what is in within self that is so annoying because you choose not to be willing to see that the behavior of the individual is either something you are presently doing yourself, something you have done in the past, or something you are fearful of doing in the future.
Judgment also works the other way, when you find yourself enamored by someone, it is important for you to understand what you love about them is the same that is within you as well. You just don't see it as clearly when you are looking directly at yourself. When you release judgment of self in the understanding that you are your own true love, you can easily relinquish the debilitating judgment of others as well.
In order to fully realize your true love you must apply self-love; meaning do for self what you so willingly do for so many others. Give to self what you have been expecting or demanding others to give to you. Lovingly place yourself at the head of the line, rather in the rear where there is naught left for you. Place yourself not at the head of the banquet table, but rather in a seat at the round table of worthiness for all, as opposed to crawling at the feet of others scrounging for the leftovers or the crumbs that fall at their feet.
You are a queen or king, a Goddess or God because you are the personification of the love of the higher union that exists within you and you deserve the best of everything, not just the best of a few things or in some cases nothing good at all.
Use some of your money to purchase something for self, even if it is determined useless or frivolous by your logical mind or others. If you don't engage in the heart's desires, profound and or silly, you will surely have to spend the same amount of money or more on something else you were not expecting.
Or you may find yourself in a position to have to spend the same amount or more by surrendering it to a physician to help you heal the body that is reflecting back to you, via some disease or uncomfortable pain, your incorrect beliefs of not being love, loving, loved or lovable.
You may have become angry or resentful because you give and are not given to in return and thusly your body will abscess with poison that is being oppressed within and is seeking an avenue of outlet. Or your heart will be in pain and you will have what is called a heart attack; know the heart does not attack, it is reacting in defense of being ignored by you.
Apply self-love by living your life knowing its value and worth. Life is precious and precious few up until now have fully understood the gift of breath. Most of you allow others to live your life for you because you are in fear of loss of love, attention, safety or some other form of support.
The true love of you is independent and whole; it knows no lack and does not seek anything or anyone outside of self because it is always giving to self. It listens to the heart and follows the direction of what makes you happy. True love lives within a thriving joyful heart, not a fearful lacking mind.
Who cares if others call you a silly heart or a Pollyanna; remember misery loves, company because it lacks the courage to step out above or beyond the crowd or tribe. Misery is ego based, it will very boldly or subtly manipulate to get you to join it.
Your own inner true love is prepared to rescue the heart of you; it will whisk you away on a shining white horse of the spirit of courage. You can gain courage in being your own true love by going with what is right for you, rather than giving your power away to another out of fearful limiting incorrect belief of loss.
In divine support of the true love of self, you are being inspired to be willing to no longer dwell in the pain of the past, but to release the long held emotions that have been oppressed. Emotions are like water; they are energy in motion and if they are not honored, acknowledged and expressed in the moment of feeling them, they then stagnate and become a supportive pool for disease in the heart, mind and body.
There is no one denying you true love, other than you. No one is withholding the relationship you deserve, other than you.
Be yourself and trust your feelings, as they are navigating you to what is right for you so you do not compromise yourself for the false love and attention of another. Your emotions are a gift, they are the messengers within to help us become aware of what we are thinking about our self or any other situation for that matter. If we feel bad, we are having some fearful limited thought. If we feel good we are having an expanded loving thought.
Don't hide behind a smile, for if the feelings behind it are disingenuous, It is not OK to be grinning all the time. Emotions must be expressed; they must be given permission to be released in a healthy manner, regardless of whether they are good feelings or less than desirable feeling. You do this with integrity by honoring the feeling whatever it is in the moment you feel it. To dwell in them or project the responsibility of the feeling on to another is unhealthy, as either leads to more of the same vicious cycle of stuffing the emotion and then drawing an experience to you for which the emotion has a pathway to freedom.
This is the unconscious way and inevitably leads to more pain and frustration, more rejection and abandonment, as emotions also grow if they are contained. They become explosive like bombs because they are being resisted and what you resist will indeed persist and before long you explode in someone's face or you explode all over yourself and then the whole nasty business of believing you are not worthy of love begins again.
All of your life you have been trying to prove your worth by getting someone else to be your true love. There is nothing to prove because you already are the true love you are seeking. This would be humorous if it wasn't so sad and in time you will learn to also laugh about it.
The soul of you holds the mastery of the higher mind and lives in the presence of its own true love, it has no need to prove anything. It is the ego that demands acknowledgement. So in attempting to prove what already is known is a bit like banging your head against the wall and wondering why you are bleeding.
The union of the inner God, Goddess is the true loving relationship you.
They intend to be joined together, yet they need your cooperation to come within for your love rather than continually seeking it outside of yourself from another. Even though you ignore their desire they continuously send you unconditionally loving messages. Yet the ego of you would rather be right in its incorrect belief of being the lesser child of God/Goddess and therefore not deserving of love.
Your ego will crucifies you with its rightful indignations rather than be happy in the truth of being the magnificent child of God/Goddess. It would rather project blame onto another, than take responsibility in its fearful unwillingness to accept the truth and heal. It remains far too busy chasing after some man or woman refusing to be calm and listen to the true love that resides within.
If you want true love, than you focus all of your energy on the strength and courage to honor respect and love self. When we take the action to do this all others treat us with the same love, honor, respect and support.
It can be no other way, as no one can help but give to you what you are already giving to self. It works the opposite as well, if you give little or nothing to self than no others can give to you what you are unwilling to give to self.
Look at the real beauty you are, look beyond the physical into the eyes of true love. Gaze within the eyes of the soul you are and know your true love; this will restore your spirit and reawaken your passion
Your true love will compassionately listen to the victim of you, allowing it to be heard and also to shed its long held tears or anger.
This is when your need to look for love outside of yourself can end, as the victim has been heard and it will cease it's tight control over your life with its relentless insatiable needs and wants, as it will no longer fear giving and/or receiving love. It knows beyond the shadow of a doubt it is true love.
The victim is given its voice in a healthy, safe, loving environment where it is able to express all that it feels. The victim then becomes victorious; it wins and its life is filled with wows rather than being dogged by the woes.
In victory of choosing your value and worth, your aura will be crowned with the beauty, love and light of true love of self for all to see. You will know through the encounters with others, who or what each of them is to you and you will engage with them in the highest love, honor and respect of the true love of them as well.
Surround yourself in self loving images, dress yourself up in self loving apparatus and continue to look into the mirror directly into the eyes the windows of the soul and you will see your true love and when you are willing to see this clearly and live it each and every moment, that other if you still desire him or her, whom also knows and is practicing true love can stand with you and for you as an equal life partner.
You will live in a relationship where there is no blame, no control or any other form of abuse. You will walk in heaven on earth hand in hand in love with self thereby having more than enough love to share with another.
Your heart will be ablaze with the passion for life, as opposed to an endless search for love. You will fully know the value of yourself and the gift you are.
Your passion for life radiating out from the true love of self will literally light up the world and through this example many others will return home to the true love of self.
Who wouldn't want to be around and with such an individual?
Come join those already shinning in the light of true love, as all lovers on the bright side of the street!
How blessed is that?
By Eloryia Ra
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